Divorce Tips for Men

May 25, 2019 — by John Conger
Tags: Divorce Family Law

Divorce legal paperwork to fill out and fileA divorce can be extremely exhausting. Even when a divorce is uncontested, it can be a source of stress and strain. That’s why the Stockton, CA divorce lawyers of Shore, McKinley, Conger & Jolley, LLP offer help with finalizing a divorce and other matters associated with the end of a marriage. Our legal counsel has helped many men and women through this process.

Our lawyers would like to offer men going through a divorce some advice. These tips will help men understand what a divorce entails. We hope this advice can help men prepare for the legal process and for the personal effects of a divorce.

Prioritize Things You Care About in the Divorce

If you and your spouse have decided to end your marriage, it’s important that you start assessing the most important priorities after the divorce is finalized. Make a list of your assets and thing about which ones are most important for the big picture. If you have children, also consider what’s most important to you as a parent.

Gather Your Financial Documents as Soon as Possible

As you get your priorities straight, it’s important to get all of your financial information in order. Get bank statements and all other documents as needed so you have them ready during the divorce process.

Try to Maintain Communication with Your Spouse

Whenever possible, maintain some form of communication with your spouse. If the divorce is mutual decision and you can avoid major conflicts through discussion and communication, this can make the divorce proceedings go by smoother.

Focus on the Large Assets First

With priorities in order, you can start thinking about what happens with major assets. This includes the marital home, motor vehicles, businesses or business investments, and so forth. Dividing these assets up can be challenging. Our Stockton divorce attorneys can help with disputes.

Don’t Hide Assets or Debts

Whatever you do, avoid hiding property or debts from your spouse. If anything remains hidden, it can disrupt the divorce proceedings and make them even more contentious and difficult than before. Be open and honest as much as possible.

Spend Time with Your Children

A divorce is a major change in your life and your children’s lives. Make sure to spend time with your kids even as the divorce is progressing. Do not use this as a chance to score points against your spouse, but as a chance to let your kids know you love them and that while the divorce means change, it does not mean the end of your relationship.

Talk About Your Feelings with Loved Ones

Divorces are stressful; even relatively amicable ones. The emotional and financial strain can take its toll on you. Just know that this is normal. If you find yourself stressed out or overwhelmed by the changes you’re facing, talk with parents, siblings, or close friends about what you’re going through. If you need to, remember there is no shame in seeing a therapist to work through your feelings.

Speak with a Skilled Divorce Attorney

Divorces take some effort to see through to the end. It’s important that you find a good divorce attorney to help guide you through the process. Your attorney will let you know what to expect, counsel you should any disputes arise, and help advocate and fight for you if your spouse is overreaching or not considering fairness in the divorce process.

Contact Shore, McKinley, Conger & Jolley, LLP

To learn more about your legal options when it comes to the end of a marriage, be sure to contact a skilled divorce and family law attorney. You can reach our law offices in Stockton and Walnut Creek by phone at (209) 477-8171.